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Special needs siblings - the real superheroes


Sometimes it's a bit hard to post, especially when you don't have something positive to post about. It's been a rough couple of weeks. I've decided to try to post something positive so here goes...


Special needs siblings - the real superheroes:

Here is a list of the most amazing qualities of a sibling of a child with special needs:

1. They just "get" their sibling - in a way no-one else does. They pick up on their siblings moods and know exactly how to handle it.
If their sibling is sad, they know how to cheer him up. If he is angry, they know how to calm him down, or how to dodge the hits and kicks.

2. They have a wicked sense of humor. Any sibling has to have a sense of humor to survive living with a special needs brother/sister. They see the comedy in situations that may not seem funny to any "normal" human being.
When your autistic child claps his hands very loudly in the restaurant and his brother joins in to spite the people giving his sibling dirty looks, you know your kid has a somewhat "off" sense of humor, just like you. And you're immensely proud of that.

3. Siblings of special needs kids have so much empathy, not just for their siblings, but for any individual that may not be "normal" in the conventional way. In one of Ruben's softball games, he was about to pitch to a boy, when said boy's insulin pump went off. Ruben knew exactly what it was and when he heard the boys bloodsugar was low he helped the boy to bring his bloodglucose back up. And even felt bad for striking him out (after the boys bloodglucose came back in normal range).

4. These amazing siblings also have fears that no child should have. Fears for their siblings future. Fear of their brother/sister dying. Fear of their parents dying and having no-one to care for their sibling.

5. But then they also have such selflessness and sense of responsibility that they offer to be their siblings caregiver when they are both adults.

These are just a few examples of the ways special needs siblings are superheroes.
Jacques truly has the best little big brother anyone could have.

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  1. SnippieNovember 22, 2019 at 8:44 AM

    Yip. The siblings have a very unique perspective on life and love.

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