February challenge - post something everyday

Hi all.

I am issuing myself the challenge of posting something on the blog everyday of February, starting today (the last few days of January included).
This coming weekend brings with it a big event in Jacques' life. It is his confirmation service on Sunday.
Auntie Elna and oom Ruan are

coming through especially for his big day and we can't wait.

Ouma Mina bought his outfit, thank you again ouma and oupa. Auntie Elna will paint a tie on his shirt, it's the closest he will ever come to wearing a tie😜.

The doctors didn't give this kid a year to live, he and God had other plans however. And that is why I want to celebrate this big day in his life although we will always be responsible for his soul salvation, I realize he will not be able to say the words of his confirmation vow. But I also believe that his soul is very ready for this vow. It is only his body holding him back and that's why myself and daddy will always take him to church as much as his condition and our sanity allows.

So congratulations my son, you have reached this important age despite all the odds being stacked against you.

We love you forever and ever.
Mommy, daddy and Ruben

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