Jacques' bucket list

I have pondered starting a bucket list for Jacques for a while, and finally decided to commit to the idea.

It may seem strange to make a bucket list for a 14 year old, but I am under no illusions that Jacques' life is very fragile. I want to make sure he gets to experience everything he would want to while God lends him to us.

Here goes:
1. Meet our Chief Apostle - the leader of our church. Although he did briefly get a wave in person once, I know he would love to get a hug from his hero.

2. Meet Johan Stemmet - previous presenter of Noot vir Noot. This is his idol - he loves oom Johan.

Those are the 2 big ones, the improbable dreams that I am sure Jacques has.

The next few items he can at least get a lot easier and a lot more of.

3. Movies - take him to as many movies possible - he loves going out to the movies, uhmm, mostly for the popcorn😂.

4. Spur - I have mentioned his love for Spur before. It is not really the food that attracts him, it's the happy birthday song. And I have to give a shoutout to Kollonade Spur. Most of the time when we visit them, they sing the song for him, even if it's not his birthday.

5. Popcorn - I think if he could get away with it, he would eat popcorn for breakfast, lunch and dinner.

6. Badplaas - Jacques absolutely loves Badplaas. He loves the swimming, the supertubes (although that is becoming a big obstacle as he is getting bigger), but most of all the concerts. Badplaas has music artists performing every December and Jacques loves standing in front, dancing, singing and just having a jol. The workers at Badplaas know Jacques very well by now, especially the entertainment team - Varkie and Nelson, and they are awesome. They always give Jacques something special like a goody bag filled with awesome Badplaas memorabilia. Even the regular December campers know Jacques by now. Unfortunately, this year we will not be able to go to Badplaas, but we will try to go again next year.

As you can see, Jacques does not have very expensive dreams, the things he loves are mostly not things but people. He loves to socialize and when people give him a chance to show his love, they in turn fall in love with him very quickly.

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